Some people just can’t help but be anything but a bad texter.
Of course we all read our friends and family’s messages, and of course we care about what they have to say… right? Right!
But when I communicate with someone I have a crush on, I suddenly become the BEST texter — Suddenly I am eagerly reading and responding to every message. And then of course…when it’s like that…the worst thoughts come out inside us…we start to overthink every single thing we reply with…typing…deleting…typing and more deleting. I know I’m not alone in this.
All my lady friends agree: Texting someone you’re into is a whole different story than texting anyone else. Suddenly, every word holds all the weight in the world.
You want to be receptive and available, but not desperate…not even close to desperate! You wanna be Flirty, but not slutty or trashy. Funny, but not trying too hard. Forward, but not obnoxious. Somehow, you have to express all of this in one short message. one hopefully sexy text message that’s not too short because you don’t wanna come off as uninterested….but not so long that you end up looking like a mess, right?
UGH, CAN YOU SAY STRESSFUL!
You want to be available, but not hard up. Flirty, but not easy. Funny, but not corny and dumb.
And then comes the waiting…waiting on HER Response….will it be good…will it be a slam…or will it never come??? Boom, there it is…and it’s a coy little “ha ha…lol…I agree”. Yet, somehow…even that effortless small response is enough to build your hopes higher than they should be. Next…reality sets in and you realize it’s YOUR TURN! Now you have to do it all over gain and come up with a whole new thought to share…ugggh.
Maybe, just Maybe, you should wait 30 minutes and pretend to be busy with more important things? Maybe keep her wondering until tomorrow? Or if you’re like thousands of other people, you phone a friend…and shoot a screenshot over for tech support? Why is this so hard???
The interesting and truth of this angle is this…BOTH men and women have these same thoughts while texting a new potential bae. Trying to be sexy with your texting…but not too sexy. Yes, it’s stressful…AND Exciting! You really can’t have one without the other, can you?
Both guys and girls confessed that their texting habits TOTALLY change when they’re talking to someone they actually like.
Here are the clues you can look out for to know without a doubt if the one you’re interested in is interested in YOU!
HE LOVES THE CONSTANT COMMUNICATION.
SHE IS MORE ATTENTIVE
HE DROPS BIG NOT EVEN CLOSE TO SUBTLE HINTS
SHE ASKS A WHOLE BUNCH OF QUESTIONS
YOU MIGHT HAVE TO WAIT 10 OR MORE MINUTES TO GET A PERFECTLY CRAFTED AND EDITED TEXT REPLY BACK
THERE IS A ONE FOR ONE EXCHANGE – A SYSTEMATIC 1 TEXT 1 REPLY FLOW
WHEN IT’S TIME FOR AN ACTUAL PHONE CALL…YOU HEAR 4 RINGS OR 3 RINGS METHODICALLY EACH AND EVERY TIME
SEEMS SOMEWHAT GUARDED…BEING CAREFUL TO NOT GO OVER ANY EDGE…
SHE MAY OVERTHINK THINGS AND WONDER IF YOU’RE STILL HUNG UP ON YOUR EX?
HE MAY BE SO NERVOUS TO READ YOUR REPLY THAT HE WAITS …AND WAITS?
YOUR CONVERSATION SEEMS TO NEVER END?
SO WHAT DO YOU DO WITH ALL THIS? YOU’RE BOTH FEELING LIKE YOU’RE NEXT TEXT COULD BLOW IT ALL OR MAKE IT THE GREATEST THING EVER.
Simple! Remember one little simple truth. What works, works. What doesn’t, never will. Be Yourself and have fun! Forget the rules…BUT…do your best, your absolute best, to not go faster than you need to.